About Charity
Dr. Charity Rolfes is a Virginia licensed clinical psychologist who helps people facing stress and anxiety. She also supports those dealing with grief, trauma, depression, relationship and intimacy concerns, eating and body image struggles, parenting strain, and career or life changes.
Her work includes attention to compassion fatigue and complex emotional patterns like abandonment and attachment issues. She centers sessions on a respectful, compassionate, and non-judgmental relationship. That relationship is where conversations start and where practical work happens.
Background and approach
She aims to create a calm space for people to talk through painful experiences and figure out next steps. Her approach draws on several therapies. She uses client-centered methods to follow the client's concerns and cognitive behavioral strategies to address unhelpful thinking and behavior.
She also brings dialectical behavior therapy and mindfulness tools to help manage strong emotions and build coping skills. Across 25 years in practice she has worked with people from many backgrounds, including LGBTQIA+ individuals, people with different abilities and neurodiversity, and those connected to military service. She offers treatment options tailored to the person and their situation rather than a one-size-fits-all plan.
In sessions she focuses on clear goals, practical techniques, and steady support. People meet, talk about goals, and try skills that fit their daily life. Over time the aim is more confidence, better coping, and stronger connections with others.
How therapeutic approaches translate to online care
Client-Centered Therapy focuses on listening closely and following the person’s priorities. In online sessions this means the therapist uses the person’s language, checks understanding often, and shapes each meeting around the issues the client brings up. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) looks at thoughts and behaviors that keep problems going and teaches step-by-step skills to change them; online work often includes practicing exercises between sessions and reviewing how those experiments went. Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) combines emotional regulation, distress tolerance, and interpersonal skills to reduce intense reactions and improve relationships, and these skills can be taught and rehearsed in remote sessions.Choosing the right mix of approaches is part of the work together. The therapist will discuss goals, try methods that match those goals, and adjust the plan based on what helps most. That collaborative process makes sure techniques feel useful and relevant to daily life.
Online therapy offers flexibility in how people connect. Video calls let the therapist and client meet face to face, phone sessions are a simple alternative when video is difficult, and live chat or text messaging can be used for brief check-ins or when writing feels easier. These options make it simpler to fit sessions into a busy schedule, support quieter check-ins, or practice skills in ways that match a person’s routine.
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What this therapist works with
Most often
- Stress, Anxiety
- Family conflicts
- Trauma and abuse
Also listed
- Abandonment
- Anger management
- Attachment issues
- Autism and Asperger Syndrome
- Avoidant personality
- Bipolar disorder
- Blended family issues
- Body image
- Career difficulties
- Caregiver issues and stress
- Chronic pain, illness, and disability
- Co-morbidity
- Codependency
- Commitment issues
- Communication problems
- Compassion fatigue
- Control issues
- Coping with life changes
- Coping with natural or human-caused disaster
- Dependent personality
- Depression
- Dissociation
- Divorce and separation
- Domestic violence
- Eating disorders
- Emptiness
- Family of origin issues
- Family problems
- Fatherhood issues
- Forgiveness
- Grief
- Guilt and shame
- Hospice and end-of-life counseling
- Immigration issues
- Impulsivity
- Intimacy-related issues
- Isolation / loneliness
- Jealousy
- LGBT
- Life purpose
- Men's issues
- Midlife crisis
- Mood disorders
- Multicultural concerns
- Narcissism
- Paranoia
- Parenting issues
- Personality disorders
- Phobias
- Post-traumatic stress
- Prejudice and discrimination
- Relationship issues
- Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)
- Self esteem
- Self-harm
- Self-love
- Sexual assault and abuse
- Sexuality
- Social anxiety and phobia
- Veteran and Armed Forces Issues
- Women's issues
- Workplace issues
- Young adult issues
Therapeutic approaches
- Experience
- 25 years
- Licensed
- Virginia
- Languages
- English
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