About Lani
Lani Stoner is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) with decades of experience helping people manage stress and anxiety. She offers straightforward guidance for everyday struggles. Her approach is practical and focused on small steps clients can use right away.
She has worked in mental health since the 1970s and spent many years in county and agency settings. Her background includes work with chronically mentally ill adults, and later independent practice with adults, adolescents, and children.
Background and approach
She has also provided online and volunteer services for military communities and veterans. Lani uses time-limited methods when useful, while also supporting longer-term work when needed. She favors active, directive sessions that set clear goals and track progress.
That means conversations that lead to concrete strategies for coping, reducing symptoms, and improving relationships. Her training includes a Master of Arts in Counseling Psychology and additional coursework in gerontology. She has focused on trauma, chronic health conditions, caregiver stress, and issues that affect LGBTQ+ people.
She draws on well-established approaches such as cognitive behavioral techniques and mindfulness to ease anxious thinking and build coping skills. Clients can expect a calm, experienced clinician who listens and then suggests practical changes. Lani aims to help people move toward more stable mood, clearer communication, and better day-to-day functioning.
She practices in California and conducts sessions online by phone or video, plus live chat and messaging options.
Therapeutic methods you can try online
Client-Centered Therapy focuses on listening and understanding what matters most to the client. The therapist helps people clarify goals and supports them as they try new ways of coping. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) looks at patterns of thinking and behavior that keep problems going; it teaches skills to change thoughts and actions to reduce anxiety and improve mood. Mindfulness Therapy shows simple attention and breathing exercises people can use to calm busy minds and manage stress.Finding the right approach is a collaborative process. The therapist will ask about goals, preferences, and what has or hasn’t worked in the past. Together they will try methods and adjust the plan based on how well the techniques fit the client's life and needs.
Online sessions are offered by video calls, phone, live chat, or text-based messaging to make therapy more flexible. Video lets people see body language and have a fuller conversation. Phone calls are useful when bandwidth is limited or a shorter check-in is needed. Live chat and messaging make it easier to fit brief exchanges into a busy day and to record thoughts between sessions. These options help therapy fit into work, school, caregiving duties, and travel while keeping treatment consistent.
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What this therapist works with
Most often
- Stress, Anxiety
- Relationship issues
- Grief
Also listed
- Addictions
- ADHD
- Aging and geriatric issues
- Anger management
- Bipolar disorder
- Blended family issues
- Cancer
- Career difficulties
- Caregiver issues and stress
- Chronic pain, illness, and disability
- Co-morbidity
- Communication problems
- Compassion fatigue
- Coping with life changes
- Coping with natural or human-caused disaster
- Depression
- Disruptive Mood Dysregulation Disorder (DMDD)
- Dissociation
- Divorce and separation
- Emptiness
- Family conflicts
- Family of origin issues
- Family problems
- Fertility issues
- First responder issues
- Forgiveness
- Guilt and shame
- HIV / AIDS
- Hospice and end-of-life counseling
- Infidelity
- Intimacy-related issues
- Isolation / loneliness
- LGBT
- Life purpose
- Midlife crisis
- Mood disorders
- Multicultural concerns
- Obsessions, compulsions, and OCD
- Panic disorder and panic attacks
- Parenting issues
- Phobias
- Post-traumatic stress
- Postpartum depression
- Pregnancy and childbirth
- Prejudice and discrimination
- Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)
- Self esteem
- Self-harm
- Self-love
- Sleeping disorders
- Social anxiety and phobia
- Trauma and abuse
- Traumatic brain injury
- Veteran and Armed Forces Issues
- Women's issues
- Workplace issues
- Young adult issues
Therapeutic approaches
- Experience
- 27 years
- Licensed
- California
- Languages
- English
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