About John
John Alilovich is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) based in California with 40 years of clinical experience. He began his career working in county mental health services, and he now continues that work in independent practice. John focuses on helping people who are dealing with anxiety, relationship struggles, substance issues, grief, parenting strain, and life transitions.
He keeps a warm, personal style in sessions. He treats people with respect and listens first to understand each person’s unique situation.
Background and approach
Together with a client he sets practical goals and checks progress along the way. John draws on a mix of approaches to match each person’s needs. He commonly uses cognitive behavioral techniques to address patterns of thinking and behavior.
He also uses acceptance and commitment ideas to help people clarify values and take committed steps forward. Attachment-based ideas guide work on closeness and trust, especially when past wounds shape present relationships. Sessions may include mindfulness exercises, emotion-focused work, and problem-solving for daily stressors like sleep, parenting, or work pressures.
John welcomes conversations about many concerns including anxiety, depression, addiction, and family or relationship challenges. He aims to create a practical plan that fits a person’s life and helps them move toward clearer goals.
Approaches and online therapy that meet you where you are
John often uses Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, which helps people notice thoughts and feelings without getting stuck and then take actions that match their values. That approach can help with anxiety, stress, and life transitions.He also works from an attachment-based perspective to look at how early relationships shape current patterns of closeness and trust. This work helps when intimacy, abandonment, or repeated relationship problems are central concerns.
Finding the right approach is part of the work together. The therapist will talk with each person about goals, needs, and preferences and then suggest which methods to try. That collaborative process allows adjustments as goals change or new issues arise.
Online formats include video calls, phone sessions, live chat, and text-based messaging. Video sessions let people speak face-to-face from different locations. Phone sessions can be easier when bandwidth is limited or when someone prefers not to be on camera. Live chat or text messaging can support short check-ins, skill practice, or flexible communication between longer sessions. These options make it possible to fit therapy into busy lives and to keep momentum during hard moments.
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What this therapist works with
Most often
- Relationship issues
- Trauma and abuse
- Intimacy-related issues
Also listed
- Abandonment
- Addictions
- ADHD
- Adoption and foster care
- Anger management
- Attachment issues
- Autism and Asperger Syndrome
- Bipolar disorder
- Blended family issues
- Career difficulties
- Coaching
- Codependency
- Compassion fatigue
- Coping with life changes
- Depression
- Divorce and separation
- Eating disorders
- Family conflicts
- Family of origin issues
- Family problems
- Fatherhood issues
- Forgiveness
- Grief
- Infidelity
- Intellectual disability
- Jealousy
- LGBT
- Life purpose
- Men's issues
- Midlife crisis
- Mood disorders
- Obsessions, compulsions, and OCD
- Parenting issues
- Personality disorders
- Phobias
- Postpartum depression
- Process addiction (porn, exercise, gambling)
- Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)
- Self esteem
- Self-harm
- Self-love
- Sex addiction
- Sexual dysfunction
- Sexuality
- Sleeping disorders
- Stress, Anxiety
- Workplace issues
- Young adult issues
Therapeutic approaches
- Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
- Attachment-Based Therapy
- Client-Centered Therapy
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
- Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)
- Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT)
- Existential Therapy
- Mindfulness Therapy
- Psychodynamic Therapy
- Somatic Therapy
- Trauma-Focused Therapy
- Internal Family Systems
- Experience
- 40 years
- Licensed
- California
- Languages
- English
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