About Vijay
Vijay (Jay) Sandher is a counsellor who supports people facing stress and anxiety. He also helps with addictions, trauma and abuse, grief and loss, and depression. Jay speaks English and Punjabi and works with clients across the United Kingdom and internationally.
Jay believes people bring their own strengths into therapy. He views the client as the expert in their life and offers a calm, non-judgemental space to talk through what feels hard.
Background and approach
He encourages small, practical steps that fit into everyday routines. In sessions Jay uses approaches that focus on relationships and how early experiences shape current reactions. He draws on attachment-based ideas to notice patterns in close relationships and to build safer ways of relating.
He also uses client-centred ways of working that prioritise the person’s goals and pace. For people affected by painful events, Jay applies trauma-focused techniques that aim to reduce overwhelming symptoms and make distress easier to manage. He helps clients make sense of what happened and learn new coping skills to handle flashbacks, strong emotions, or avoidance.
His style is calm and direct, with an emphasis on practical tools and clear steps. Sessions can be by video, phone, live chat or text messaging to suit different needs. Jay has seven years of professional experience and holds BACP membership, the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy.
Starting therapy usually begins with a short matching questionnaire and scheduling a first session. Jay works collaboratively to set goals and adjust the approach as therapy progresses.
How these approaches work online
Attachment-Based Therapy looks at how early relationships shape current ways of connecting. Online sessions use conversation and reflection to identify patterns and try new, safer ways of relating to others. Client-Centred Therapy puts the person’s goals and pace first; the therapist listens without judgement and supports the client to steer the work and find their own solutions. Trauma-Focused Therapy involves focused, step-by-step work to reduce the hold of past traumatic events and to build practical coping skills for flashbacks or strong emotions.Choosing the right approach is part of the therapeutic process. The therapist will work collaboratively to learn what matters to the client, try methods that fit those goals, and adjust as progress is made. Clients help shape the focus and speed of sessions so the work stays relevant and manageable.
Online therapy offers practical flexibility. Video calls let people use body language and facial cues during in-depth work. Phone sessions can be easier when bandwidth is limited or for shorter check-ins. Live chat and text messaging suit shorter updates, reflection between sessions, or people who prefer not to use a camera. These options make it easier to fit therapy around work, family duties, and daily life while keeping the focus on progress and practical strategies.
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What this therapist works with
Also listed
- Abandonment
- Attachment issues
- Autism and Asperger Syndrome
- Avoidant personality
- Cancer
- Caregiver issues and stress
- Chronic pain, illness, and disability
- Codependency
- Commitment issues
- Control issues
- Coping with natural or human-caused disaster
- Dependent personality
- Depression
- Dissociation
- Divorce and separation
- Domestic violence
- Drug and alcohol addiction
- Emptiness
- Family problems
- Fatherhood issues
- Fertility issues
- Grief
- Hospice and end-of-life counseling
- Immigration issues
- Infidelity
- Isolation / loneliness
- Jealousy
- Men's issues
- Midlife crisis
- Mood disorders
- Narcissism
- Obsessions, compulsions, and OCD
- Panic disorder and panic attacks
- Paranoia
- Personality disorders
- Phobias
- Post-traumatic stress
- Prejudice and discrimination
- Process addiction (porn, exercise, gambling)
- Self-harm
- Sex addiction
- Sexual assault and abuse
- Sexual dysfunction
- Smoking / vaping cessation
- Social anxiety and phobia
- Traumatic brain injury
- Veteran and Armed Forces Issues
- Workplace issues
Therapeutic approaches
- Experience
- 7 years
- Licensed
- Languages
- English, Punjabi
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