About Sueli
Sueli Montilha is a counsellor who focuses on practical support for people feeling overwhelmed by anxiety, stress and relationship concerns. She uses a straightforward style to help clients talk through sexual wellbeing, trauma, grief and changes in life.
Sueli's approach is informed by six years working in the charity sector and the NHS in the United Kingdom, and by postgraduate study in psychosexual therapy. Sueli draws on a bio-psychosocial view that looks at how biology, thoughts and social context interact.
Background and approach
She pays attention to gender, sex and relationship diversity and works respectfully with different identities and relationship structures. That means conversations cover everyday patterns as well as sexual wellbeing or intimacy-related difficulties when relevant.
Her clinical background includes work with people affected by complex trauma including sexual trauma, common mental health conditions such as anxiety and depression, and issues like sexual dysfunction and communication problems. She also supports people dealing with grief, parenting strains, career worries and compassion fatigue.
Sueli has experience supporting those who face immigration-related stress, adoption and foster care situations, attachment or family of origin issues, and the effects of separation or domestic violence. She takes a multicultural stance shaped by living in different countries and by working with diverse communities. Sessions are delivered in English and Sueli offers several online formats.
She encourages collaborative planning so each person can try approaches that match their needs and day-to-day life.
How therapeutic approaches translate to online care
Evidence-based techniques Sueli uses include trauma-informed work that helps people manage symptoms after sexual or complex trauma by building safety, pacing memories and developing coping strategies. This approach can help with intrusive memories, dissociation and intense anxiety related to past events.She also practises interventions aimed at sexual wellbeing and relationship concerns, which focus on improving communication, addressing desire or arousal difficulties, and practical steps to reduce performance anxiety and increase intimacy. These methods are useful when physical symptoms and relationship patterns interact with emotional distress.
Finding the best approach is a collaborative process. Sueli will discuss options with each person and adapt methods to match their goals, comfort and everyday life. Together they set small, achievable steps and review progress so the plan evolves as needed.
Online formats give practical flexibility. Video calls allow face-to-face conversation when that matters. Phone sessions suit people who prefer not to be on camera or who need a shorter check-in. Live chat and text-based messaging are useful for ongoing support between sessions or for quick reflections that fit into a busy day. These options make it easier to fit therapy around work, childcare and other commitments while still working with registered or accredited professionals.
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What this therapist works with
Most often
- Stress, Anxiety
- Relationship issues
- Trauma and abuse
Also listed
- Adoption and foster care
- Anger management
- Attachment issues
- BDSM, kink, and alternative sex culture
- Career difficulties
- Compassion fatigue
- Control issues
- Coping with life changes
- Coping with natural or human-caused disaster
- Depression
- Dissociation
- Divorce and separation
- Domestic violence
- Family conflicts
- Family of origin issues
- Family problems
- Forgiveness
- Grief
- Guilt and shame
- Immigration issues
- Infidelity
- Intimacy-related issues
- Isolation / loneliness
- Jealousy
- LGBT
- Men's issues
- Midlife crisis
- Multicultural concerns
- Panic disorder and panic attacks
- Parenting issues
- Polyamory / non-monogamous relationships
- Post-traumatic stress
- Postpartum depression
- Prejudice and discrimination
- Self esteem
- Self-harm
- Self-love
- Sexual assault and abuse
- Sexual dysfunction
- Sexuality
- Social anxiety and phobia
- Women's issues
- Workplace issues
- Young adult issues
- Experience
- 6 years
- Licensed
- Languages
- English
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