About Nicole
Nicole Thomte is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with 13 years of clinical experience. She practices from Minnesota and uses an affirming, sex-positive approach for people whose lives fall outside mainstream expectations. Nicole values humor, curiosity, and a collaborative stance in sessions.
Her style is warm and non-directive. She listens first, then helps point out patterns and options clients might not see. Sessions focus on what the person brings rather than fitting them into labels or diagnoses.
Background and approach
Nicole draws on solution-focused work alongside client-centered conversations to help with everyday problems. She also uses cognitive behavioral and dialectical strategies when needed to address worries, panic, or mood difficulties. Motivational interviewing helps when people want to make changes but feel stuck.
She has long experience working with people affected by trauma, discrimination, or limited access to services. That background includes group facilitation and many years supporting survivors of gender- and sex-based violence. Those experiences shaped her commitment to multicultural and inclusive care.
Nicole offers support for a wide range of concerns, including anxiety, stress, mood differences, relationship and intimacy questions, sexual identity and gender issues, grief, and coping with life changes. She also works with people navigating kink, polyamory, chronic illness, and career stress. Sessions help clients build practical skills, try small experiments, and set achievable goals.
Nicole aims to provide steady, respectful guidance so clients can move toward the life they want.
Therapeutic approaches and online care
Nicole uses client-centered work to create a respectful space where the client’s goals guide the conversation. This approach focuses on listening closely and reflecting what matters most to the person, which helps clarify goals and priorities.She also uses Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, which looks at the links between thoughts, feelings, and actions. CBT is useful for managing anxiety, panic, and unhelpful thinking patterns by practicing concrete strategies and small behavior changes.
Finding the right approach is part of the work together. Nicole will collaborate with each person to choose methods that match their needs, goals, and preferences, and she will adjust techniques as progress is made.
Online sessions are available by video call, phone, live chat, or text-based messaging to fit different schedules and needs. Video calls allow face-to-face conversation when visual cues help, while phone sessions can be easier when bandwidth is limited or a shorter check-in is needed. Live chat and text messaging offer flexibility for brief check-ins, written reflection, or ongoing support between longer sessions. These options make it easier to fit therapy into a busy life and to choose the communication style that feels most comfortable.
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What this therapist works with
Most often
- Stress, Anxiety
- LGBT
- Relationship issues
Also listed
- ADHD
- Anger management
- BDSM, kink, and alternative sex culture
- Bipolar disorder
- Career difficulties
- Chronic pain, illness, and disability
- Communication problems
- Compassion fatigue
- Coping with life changes
- Depression
- Family conflicts
- Gender dysphoria
- Grief
- Intimacy-related issues
- Mood disorders
- Multicultural concerns
- Panic disorder and panic attacks
- Phobias
- Polyamory / non-monogamous relationships
- Prejudice and discrimination
- Self esteem
- Sexuality
- Trauma and abuse
- Women's issues
Therapeutic approaches
- Experience
- 13 years
- Licensed
- Minnesota
- Languages
- English
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