About Shem
Shem Lopez is a counsellor who focuses on helping people who are struggling with anxiety and related concerns. He aims to create a calm, respectful space where clients can say what matters to them and begin to make sense of how they feel. The opening paragraph gives a straightforward welcome and an offer to look at difficult feelings together.
Shem works in a way that puts each person’s values at the centre.
Background and approach
He helps people notice patterns in thinking and feeling, and then choose actions that match what matters to them. Sessions are practical and conversational, with space for reflection and skills practice. He brings 12 years of experience in independent practice in the United Kingdom.
Over that time he has supported people with anxiety, panic attacks, trauma and abuse, depression and anger, among other concerns. He also offers help with intimate and relationship matters and psychosexual difficulties. His approach is integrative.
He draws on a mix of methods such as Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Emotionally-Focused Therapy, the Gottman Method, hypnotherapy and Imago Relationship Therapy. This mix allows him to adapt to what each person needs in the moment. Sessions are offered online and in person.
Shem works with individuals and couples to increase self-awareness, reduce distress and build more satisfying connections with themselves and others. People who pick him often want clear, down-to-earth support for everyday anxiety and relationship stress, alongside practical steps to move forward.
How his approaches translate to online therapy
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) helps people clarify what they care about and take small steps towards those values while learning to sit with difficult thoughts and feelings. It can be useful for anxiety, panic and life changes. Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT) focuses on understanding emotions in relationships and building stronger emotional bonds; it is often used for couples or intimacy issues. The Gottman Method offers practical tools to improve communication and manage conflict in relationships, using short exercises to shift how partners interact.Working out the best approach is a shared process. Shem discusses goals and preferences with each person and adapts methods as progress unfolds. He combines short practical exercises with longer reflective work so clients can try new ways of relating between sessions.
Online sessions are offered by video call, phone, live chat or text-based messaging to fit different needs. Video calls let people work face to face from wherever they are. Phone sessions use less bandwidth and can suit someone on the move. Live chat or messaging is useful for brief check-ins, ongoing coaching-style support or when written reflection feels easier. These options make therapy more flexible around work, family and travel commitments.
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What this therapist works with
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Also listed
- Abandonment
- Anger management
- Attachment issues
- Coaching
- Compassion fatigue
- Coping with life changes
- Depression
- Eating disorders
- Guilt and shame
- Impulsivity
- Intimacy-related issues
- Isolation / loneliness
- LGBT
- Life purpose
- Men's issues
- Midlife crisis
- Panic disorder and panic attacks
- Parenting issues
- Post-traumatic stress
- Relationship issues
- Self esteem
- Self-love
- Sexuality
- Social anxiety and phobia
- Workplace issues
Therapeutic approaches
- Experience
- 12 years
- Licensed
- Languages
- English
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