About Vanessa
Prof. Vanessa Costello is a Licensed Professional Counselor with ten years of clinical experience. She practices from Oklahoma and holds LPC credentials in Arizona and Texas as well.
Vanessa works with people who struggle with anxiety, stress, depression, relationship difficulties, and self-esteem concerns. She trained in marriage and family therapy and has seen people across the life span. Her background includes work with children, teens, young adults, adults, and seniors in agency settings.
Background and approach
That variety shaped a straightforward, problem-focused style. Vanessa uses practical methods such as cognitive behavioral techniques and motivational interviewing to help people change patterns that keep them stuck. She also applies trauma-focused work when past events continue to affect daily life.
Sessions aim to be collaborative and goal-oriented. Her approach blends direct skill teaching with time to talk through emotions and relationship patterns. She pays attention to communication problems, family of origin issues, caregiving stress, and midlife concerns.
Many clients look to her for help with grief, intimacy issues, social anxiety, and career stress. Vanessa emphasizes each person’s strengths and choices. She frames the client as the expert on their own story and works alongside them to set realistic steps.
Getting started is treated as a shared process, with coaching on clear tools and small behavioral changes.
Approaches that translate well to online therapy
CBT, or cognitive behavioral therapy, focuses on identifying unhelpful thought and behavior patterns and replacing them with practical steps and new ways of thinking. It often helps with anxiety, stress, social fears, and low mood. The Gottman Method concentrates on communication and relationship skills, offering concrete tools to improve listening, reduce criticism, and rebuild connection in close relationships. Motivational interviewing invites people to talk through mixed feelings and find their own reasons for change, which can be useful for motivation, life transitions, and commitment issues.Finding the right approach is part of the work together. Vanessa collaborates with each person to choose methods that match their needs, goals, and comfort level. She adapts techniques over time and checks in regularly so sessions remain aligned with what the person wants to achieve.
Online formats can make it easier to fit therapy into a busy life. Video calls allow fuller conversation and face-to-face interaction, phone sessions can be lighter on bandwidth and easier between errands, and live chat or text-based messaging work well for short check-ins, journaling support, or when someone prefers not to be on camera. These options increase flexibility and help people practice new skills in real time while keeping therapy consistent with daily routines.
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What this therapist works with
Most often
- Stress, Anxiety
- Relationship issues
- Self esteem
Also listed
- Anger management
- Career difficulties
- Caregiver issues and stress
- Commitment issues
- Communication problems
- Compassion fatigue
- Coping with life changes
- Depression
- Family conflicts
- Family of origin issues
- Family problems
- Fertility issues
- Forgiveness
- Grief
- Intimacy-related issues
- Isolation / loneliness
- Life purpose
- Midlife crisis
- Social anxiety and phobia
- Women's issues
- Young adult issues
Therapeutic approaches
- Experience
- 10 years
- Licensed
- Oklahoma, Texas, Arizona
- Languages
- English
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