About Victoria
Victoria Stalder is a licensed marriage and family therapist (LMFT) who focuses on stress, anxiety, relationships, and trauma. She offers calm, practical support and listens without judgment. Victoria aims to help people feel understood and move toward clearer goals.
Victoria has practiced since 2018 and brings six years of clinical experience. She works with individuals and couples, guiding people through depression, grief, addictions, intimacy concerns, parenting strain, and life changes.
Background and approach
Her approach is grounded in real techniques people can try between sessions. She often blends attachment-based ideas with cognitive behavioral tools. That means she pays attention to how relationships and past hurts shape current thoughts and behaviors.
Sessions include talking through patterns, testing new ways of responding, and building emotional skills. Victoria also uses emotionally-focused methods to address closeness and connection in relationships. For trauma she incorporates EMDR to help process distressing memories when appropriate.
The work moves at each person’s pace and focuses on practical steps that fit daily life. Her style is warm and straightforward. Sessions aim for clear goals, measurable progress, and compassion for setbacks.
Victoria encourages people to bring their questions and to try small changes between sessions to see what helps. To begin, she asks clients to complete a short matching questionnaire and then schedule a session. Appointments are offered in a variety of formats to fit busy lives in Washington and beyond.
Therapeutic approaches suited to online work
Victoria often combines attachment-based work and cognitive behavioral techniques to help people understand how past relationships shape current feelings and actions. Attachment-based work looks at patterns in close relationships and helps people try new ways of connecting. Cognitive behavioral therapy, or CBT, focuses on identifying unhelpful thoughts and testing practical changes in behavior to reduce anxiety and stress.She also uses emotionally-focused methods when relationship closeness and trust are central concerns. That approach helps partners or individuals name emotions, shift reactive patterns, and build new ways of relating. For processing trauma, EMDR is offered as another option to work through distressing memories over time.
Finding the right approach is part of the work together. The therapist will discuss goals, preferences, and what feels manageable, then try methods that match those needs. Clients and the therapist make decisions collaboratively and adjust the plan as progress is observed.
Online therapy offers flexible ways to connect. Video calls let people read facial expressions and body language, phone sessions work when bandwidth is limited, live chat supports quick check-ins, and text-based messaging helps with brief updates or ongoing reflection between longer sessions. These options make it easier to fit therapy into busy schedules and to continue work even when life gets hectic.
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What this therapist works with
Most often
- Stress, Anxiety
- Relationship issues
- Trauma and abuse
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Therapeutic approaches
- Experience
- 6 years
- Licensed
- Washington
- Languages
- English
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