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Thomas "Tom" Relevitch, BACP

Experienced counsellor for anxiety and life change

10 years in practice · based in United Kingdom · sessions in English · online sessions

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About Thomas

Thomas "Tom" Relevitch is a counsellor with ten years of professional experience based in the United Kingdom. He focuses on practical help for people dealing with stress and anxiety, relationship strains, LGBT concerns and major life changes. Tom aims to make the first steps less daunting by offering a calm, open space to talk.

He respects the courage it takes to start therapy and keeps sessions straightforward and focused. Tom usually creates sessions that let people say what matters most to them.

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Background and approach

He listens, reflects, and helps people notice patterns that affect their mood and choices. His approach draws on client-centred work that puts the person’s concerns at the centre, psychodynamic ideas that look at repeating patterns and past influences, and solution-focused techniques that build small, achievable steps forward. Over a decade of practice has given Tom experience with a wide range of issues.

These include abandonment and attachment worries, communication problems, infidelity and separation, and feelings of emptiness or isolation. He also supports people navigating kink and alternative sex cultures, polyamory, multicultural issues and men’s midlife concerns. Sessions are offered in English and Tom accepts international clients.

He is registered with the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy - BACP. The majority of his availability is between 12 noon and 5 pm GMT, Monday to Thursday. Tom uses straightforward conversation and achievable actions.

He helps people set small goals, track progress and adjust plans as life changes. The focus is on practical relief from anxiety and clearer steps toward what matters next.

Therapeutic approaches and online support

Tom commonly uses client-centred work, psychodynamic thinking and solution-focused techniques. Client-centred therapy means the conversation is led by the person’s needs, with the counsellor listening closely and reflecting what matters most. Psychodynamic therapy looks at recurring patterns and past influences that shape current feelings and behaviour. Solution-focused therapy emphasises small, practical steps and clear goals to move forward.

Finding the right approach is part of the process. Tom will work collaboratively to decide which ideas fit a person’s needs and preferences. Together they will try methods, review what helps, and adjust the plan as progress is made.

Online formats include video calls, phone sessions, live chat and text-based messaging. Video calls suit full conversations and face-to-face interaction. Phone sessions are useful when video is impractical or bandwidth is limited. Live chat and messaging can provide brief check-ins, ongoing reflection, or support between longer sessions. These options make it easier to fit therapy around work, travel and busy days while keeping the focus on dealing with anxiety and life changes.
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Questions people ask

What concerns does Tom help with?
He works with stress and anxiety, relationship issues, LGBT matters and people coping with life changes. He also covers topics such as abandonment, attachment, communication problems, infidelity, loneliness and questions about life purpose.
What style of therapy does he use?
Tom blends client-centred listening with psychodynamic thinking and solution-focused techniques. This means he listens closely, looks at repeating patterns, and helps set small practical steps forward.
How much clinical experience does he have?
He has around ten years of professional experience working with a range of common and complex concerns. That background informs how he supports people through anxiety and life changes.
Where is he based and what credential does he hold?
Tom is based in the United Kingdom and is registered with the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy - BACP.
Which languages are supported?
Sessions are offered in English.
Can international clients work with him?
He accepts international clients and runs sessions for people outside the UK as well as within it.
What session formats are available?
Sessions can take place by video call, phone, live chat or text-based messaging. These options allow for shorter check-ins or longer conversations depending on what fits the person’s schedule.
How are fees handled and how do I begin?
Cost varies with location and therapist availability and sessions use a subscription that can be cancelled at any time. To start, select the Start Therapy button, complete the short matching questionnaire and schedule according to the therapist’s availability.

What this therapist works with

Most often

Experience
10 years
Licensed
Languages
English

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